What is Counselling and Psychotherapy?
- A chance to focus on areas of your life that you want to change; stressful events and feelings that you want to manage; problems that you want to resolve, in an honest, supportive and confidential environment.You can look at your concerns, work out strategies, develop insights and identify inner resources and get support from elsewhere to meet your needs.
You can also gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationships ; to use the process for personal development and enhance your enjoyment of life. Psychotherapy and CBT can also help with more irrational thoughts, feelings and behaviours which are affecting areas of your life and if relevant to you psychotherapy can be effective in resolving childhood issues.
Who comes for Counselling and Psychotherapy?
People who are facing stress and problems in their life that seem overwhelming and unbearable.
People who are having or have had problems withrelationships, stress, anxiety work issues, tension, panic attacks depression, negative thinking, bereavement, loss, childhood issues, or significant life events.
People who have experienced trauma, low self esteem, lacking in confidence parenting issues or caring for others anger management, sexuality general dissatisfaction with life and lack of direction
People who want to take charge of their lives; thoughts? feelings? behaviour?relationships?and feel more relaxed, confident and happy with their lives.
At times we all need support.If you recognise yourself from the above do contact me by phone, email or text to discuss how your difficulties can be managed and overcome.
Transactional Analysis
Transactional Analysis is my core modality, however I use a variety of approaches to suit you as an individual or couple and your needs.
Ask yourself the following questions -
Have you a clear idea of what is troubling you and want to focus on?
Are there more than one aspect to what is concerning you?
Do you feel troubled or disatisfied and don't know exactly what the key issue is?
At the core of TA is contracting.We 'contract'; agree together at the beginning of our work together what the key issues are for you and prioritise an area or areas for change.This contracting keeps our work vital and relevant.
More about TA
Transactional Analysis is a form of therapy that can focus on the ' transactions ' that occur between people. It is a method of understanding ourselves and others .Working together we can bring about lasting change and you can leave therapy managing your life in a successful way.
Are you unhappy with aspects of your life, or your life generally- questioning things that are happening to you; things that you are doing or are being done by others and thoughts and feelings that that you would like to change? Questions such as -
What makes someone do and say the things they do? Why do I feel unhappy and struggle to change that? What makes me keep behaving in ways that seem destructive or unhelpful to me?Why do others appear to act how they do? At times we have all said to ourselves; ‘How on Earth did I end up here again? I thought it was going to be different this time.’
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a great way to understand all these issues and more.
Ego State Model.
- A chance to focus on areas of your life that you want to change; stressful events and feelings that you want to manage; problems that you want to resolve, in an honest, supportive and confidential environment.You can look at your concerns, work out strategies, develop insights and identify inner resources and get support from elsewhere to meet your needs.
You can also gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationships ; to use the process for personal development and enhance your enjoyment of life. Psychotherapy and CBT can also help with more irrational thoughts, feelings and behaviours which are affecting areas of your life and if relevant to you psychotherapy can be effective in resolving childhood issues.
Who comes for Counselling and Psychotherapy?
People who are facing stress and problems in their life that seem overwhelming and unbearable.
People who are having or have had problems with
People who have experienced
People who want to take charge of their lives; thoughts? feelings? behaviour?relationships?and feel more relaxed, confident and happy with their lives.
At times we all need support.If you recognise yourself from the above do contact me by phone, email or text to discuss how your difficulties can be managed and overcome.
Transactional Analysis
3 great permissions; to love, to change and to do things well. - Eric Berne founder of Transactional Analysis.
Transactional Analysis is my core modality, however I use a variety of approaches to suit you as an individual or couple and your needs.
Ask yourself the following questions -
Have you a clear idea of what is troubling you and want to focus on?
Are there more than one aspect to what is concerning you?
Do you feel troubled or disatisfied and don't know exactly what the key issue is?
At the core of TA is contracting.We 'contract'; agree together at the beginning of our work together what the key issues are for you and prioritise an area or areas for change.This contracting keeps our work vital and relevant.
More about TA
Transactional Analysis is a form of therapy that can focus on the ' transactions ' that occur between people. It is a method of understanding ourselves and others .Working together we can bring about lasting change and you can leave therapy managing your life in a successful way.
Are you unhappy with aspects of your life, or your life generally- questioning things that are happening to you; things that you are doing or are being done by others and thoughts and feelings that that you would like to change? Questions such as -
What makes someone do and say the things they do? Why do I feel unhappy and struggle to change that? What makes me keep behaving in ways that seem destructive or unhelpful to me?Why do others appear to act how they do? At times we have all said to ourselves; ‘How on Earth did I end up here again? I thought it was going to be different this time.’
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a great way to understand all these issues and more.
Ego State Model.
The best known model of TA is the ego state model (see diagram above).
This splits personality into 3 distinct parts, Parent, Adult and Child.
Sometimes we behave, think and feel as the adult we are in the present moment, sometimes we behave, think and feel as the child we were once and sometimes we behave, think and feel like our parents or other significant people in our upbringing , past and in the here and now.
We are not usually aware of this movement between ego states, but we move through them all of the time and it is noticable that often our Child ego state and our Parent ego state are in disagreement and we experience internal conflict.
An example of this might be, when you wake up, "I really would like to stay in bed" (Child ego state) some other voice urges you to "get up and don't be so lazy "(Parent ego state) often there can be a voice of reason that might say "stay in bed for 5 more minutes and then get up, because there are things to do and you will feel happier." ( Adult ego state).
We can all recognise these internal arguments within our selves, part of the process of TA is to separate the different ego states to gain insight and control over our behaviour and turn around our struggle with others.
This splits personality into 3 distinct parts, Parent, Adult and Child.
Sometimes we behave, think and feel as the adult we are in the present moment, sometimes we behave, think and feel as the child we were once and sometimes we behave, think and feel like our parents or other significant people in our upbringing , past and in the here and now.
We are not usually aware of this movement between ego states, but we move through them all of the time and it is noticable that often our Child ego state and our Parent ego state are in disagreement and we experience internal conflict.
An example of this might be, when you wake up, "I really would like to stay in bed" (Child ego state) some other voice urges you to "get up and don't be so lazy "(Parent ego state) often there can be a voice of reason that might say "stay in bed for 5 more minutes and then get up, because there are things to do and you will feel happier." ( Adult ego state).
We can all recognise these internal arguments within our selves, part of the process of TA is to separate the different ego states to gain insight and control over our behaviour and turn around our struggle with others.
The idea of a 'life script' is another main TA concept, the theory being that we all create a script for ourselves and our life journey during childhood and according to our circumstances and the way we are cared for as a child, will be the themes and tenants of our scripts.
The decisions we make about the world become unconscious drives and operate out of our awareness, yet can compel us to think, feel and behave in certain ways.
TA therapy, seeks to dismantle script and by bringing these self limiting and destructive patterns into awareness make them available to change. So change in therapy is a move towards conscious choice and away from unconscious compulsion.
These are just a few of the theories about TA and there are many other ways of understanding yourself and others contained in TA theory, ie. games, rackets, discounting, injunctions, drivers, symbiosis and many more which can be powerful in changing your life.Don't worry if some of the words sound complex , TA theory is in fact designed to be easilly understood by both client and therapist working together to achieve individual therapeutic goals.
Cognitive behavioural Therapy (CBT)
I use CBT combined with the richness of Transactional Analysis, gestalt and other approaches.
Using CBT we will pay close attention to the way you think and act to help you to overcome emotional and behavioural problems.
I will invite you to question your thinking when the beliefs that support your thinking are based on far reaching and often catastrophic imaginings and how your thought based on your imaginings can then have a negative affect on the quality of your life.
Your distress is real and I will take them seriously, and you will be expected to take an active part in changing how you think.You may be given homework to do between sessions to re-inforce what you have learnt in the sessions.
In CBT early life events may be referred to to help you understand why you have learned to think in skewed ways but they will not be explored as they would be in psychotherapy unless we agree that this is relevant.My intensive training in psychotherapy gives me the skills to manage this exploration sensitively and effectively.
Are problems and disatisfaction getting in the way of enjoying life? Had enough of this being the case? Then do contact me to start with any questions or to book a half price session with no further obligation. TEL.0161 428 3016 M 079 69 1111 69
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The decisions we make about the world become unconscious drives and operate out of our awareness, yet can compel us to think, feel and behave in certain ways.
TA therapy, seeks to dismantle script and by bringing these self limiting and destructive patterns into awareness make them available to change. So change in therapy is a move towards conscious choice and away from unconscious compulsion.
These are just a few of the theories about TA and there are many other ways of understanding yourself and others contained in TA theory, ie. games, rackets, discounting, injunctions, drivers, symbiosis and many more which can be powerful in changing your life.Don't worry if some of the words sound complex , TA theory is in fact designed to be easilly understood by both client and therapist working together to achieve individual therapeutic goals.
Cognitive behavioural Therapy (CBT)
I use CBT combined with the richness of Transactional Analysis, gestalt and other approaches.
Using CBT we will pay close attention to the way you think and act to help you to overcome emotional and behavioural problems.
I will invite you to question your thinking when the beliefs that support your thinking are based on far reaching and often catastrophic imaginings and how your thought based on your imaginings can then have a negative affect on the quality of your life.
Your distress is real and I will take them seriously, and you will be expected to take an active part in changing how you think.You may be given homework to do between sessions to re-inforce what you have learnt in the sessions.
In CBT early life events may be referred to to help you understand why you have learned to think in skewed ways but they will not be explored as they would be in psychotherapy unless we agree that this is relevant.My intensive training in psychotherapy gives me the skills to manage this exploration sensitively and effectively.
'' A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.'' - Confucius.
Are problems and disatisfaction getting in the way of enjoying life? Had enough of this being the case? Then do contact me to start with any questions or to book a half price session with no further obligation. TEL.0161 428 3016 M 079 69 1111 69
Email - click here to email me
Click here to go to top page
